Coping during COVID-19: Conflict
"Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can." - Arthur Ashe
Due to the global pandemic and lockdown, our roles at home, work and in our communities may have changed drastically over the past few months. Our homes and personal spaces are now utilised in different ways than what we’re used to. Perhaps your kitchen table has turned into a classroom for online learning, the corner of your bedroom is now your office, the bathroom is the only place where you’re able to get some much needed ‘me time’.
With the global atmosphere clouded by illness anxiety, job insecurity and feelings of grief and loss – conflict in the home environment may arise. All these changes in the home environment can be challenging, so it's vitally important to take the time to figure out what would work best for you and those that you are sharing the space with.
If you feel yourself becoming irritated or annoyed with your family or those around you during lockdown, try not to be too hard on yourself. This is a difficult time for many, and we may have moments where we don’t show up as our best selves. You could try counting until 10, slowly and mindfully while taking deep, intentional breaths before reacting out of an emotional state of frustration or annoyance.
A lot of misunderstandings and frustration could potentially be avoided by talking about what your needs for the day are. Check-in daily with your family or whomever you share the space with. Doing emotional check-ins might require asking questions such as, “How are you feeling today?”, “What does your schedule look like this morning?”, “What will you need to get done today and what space will you need?”. Remember to engage in the process, name and describe the emotions you’re feeling, even just one word can be helpful. Be honest with where your energy levels are at. When we shut down honest communication about where we’re at and what we need, resentment and tensions may continue to build up. This is especially true when we’re confined in the same space together for a prolonged period of time.
Remember, you’re doing the best you can right now and that’s all anybody can do.